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Let's have a look.

Where are you beautiful people.

You put in the chat where you are.

I see Tommy.

I know where he is.

Where are you?

Where are you joining us from?

Detroit, Oregon.

California.

Oh, Florida.

It was hot in London until today.

It's been freezing today.

Yorkshire Malaga.

Look at that.

Sunny Denver.

Wow.

Oh, those wonderful people.

No, nobody from Australia or
New Zealand this afternoon.

It was a little small group
and I think there were three

Australians and the New Zealand.

There are four of them at crazy o'clock.

Yeah, it would be.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, I mean, goodness me so many
people from all over the world.

Well, look, Tracy's inspiring to
make the world a better place.

Marguerite, are you guys, are you
guys good from Auckland and Yes.

It's crazy o'clock.

Yeah.

Oh,

how are you Tina?

I'm good.

How are you?

Uh, fair to Midland?

I've better to Midland.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Adequately.

Uh, should, should be
a efficiently adequate?

Not really.

Not really.

I mean, you, you know, those
couple of days before you go on a

holiday and it's all, it's like,
it's like any project, isn't it?

No matter what timeframe you give
yourself for a project, there's

always that last little rush to
get everything ready, you know?

So yeah, going through that stage at
the moment, um, although I am actually

getting things out and then just putting
them away, I'm gonna be traveling light.

So.

I don't think I'll be seeing many
of you guys for a couple of weeks.

Tina's gonna be covering everything,
so, um, yeah, it's gonna be quite

a gadget free couple of weeks,
although it depends wherever I go.

'cause apparently there
was an earthquake just off.

I'm going to Crete.

So there was a 5.9

on the Richter scale earthquake,
you believe just off the coast.

Oh.

And they're given out a
potential tsunami warning.

The good news is we're halfway up a
mountain, so we should be all right.

Yeah,

I hope so.

I'm doing good though.

Thank you.

Well, I mean, I mean a tsunami,
I mean, how, how could I possibly

reframe that in a positive way?

It can be the first
exercise for the group.

Help me to reframe the fact that
I'm going on a holiday where

there's just been an earthquake and
there's a potential tsunami warning.

How do I reframe that?

Anyone?

Quite an adventure.

Wait, you, thank you, Sarah.

That's a good start.

Good try.

Anyone else?

To the rescue.

Big wave of pretty stay here.

That's not gonna work.

No.

It'll be interesting and story
worthy, assuming it'll come back.

Yeah.

Surfs up.

Life is always a tsunami.

Nice one.

Yeah.

The risk will be gone by
the time you get there.

Possibly face the fear.

I don't have fear, I
don't have fear, Venetia.

But, uh, thank you.

Yeah.

Less statistically will
happen now since already was.

Mm.

Is that true?

I'm gonna have to go and check
perplexity and Gemini and everyone to see

whether that statement is true or not.

Um, it's a new experience
and earth moving experience.

Your chances of drowning alone.

Thanks, John.

That's really good.

I hadn't even thought of drowning.

Now I've got that picture in my mind.

But at least the chances of
drowning lower, um, you can swim.

You'll be fine.

Yeah.

Take, take your rubber rings with you.

You'll be fine.

I've got them packed.

That means you'll have plenty of water.

Amazing, amazing phenomena.

The le, at least you
missed the earthquake.

Uh, there's just been
one, so you'll be fine.

It's good to be alert
whilst you enjoy yourself.

I mean, look at this, this is great.

Just I've made one expression of
something and you guys have come

up with an infinite, how many,
probably about 30 or 40 different

ways to get me to change my mind and
think differently about something.

I like Joel.

Joel says, these things usually
happen when they're expected, so since

they're expecting it, it won't happen.

That sounds like total
bullshit, but I'll go with it.

It sounds good.

That like a tsunami wash in what, what
that washing away what No longer serves

life's biggest upheavals can clear space
for growth, clarity, and a new beginning.

Oh, I almost dropped into a trance.

Okay.

And it almost dropped
into a trance with that.

So, um.

I mean, the theme for
today is reframing mastery.

We've already started.

Hmm.

So, um, I've got a big
question for you guys.

When, whenever we put these practice
groups together, we do have a bit

of a conversation, Tina and I,
and go, what do they need next?

We've got a long list, by the way.

It's a very long list.

Where can we go with this?

And, um, I then like to go away
and go through all my notes and

explore, open up different books,
things I haven't seen for a while.

It's a chance for me to kind
of just refresh things as well.

And I always like to have a question in
mind for me when I put together what I

am gonna do and, um, share with you and
Tina, I have a conversation to make sure

what we're doing kind of fits together.

So there's a question I wanna
pose to you now, and I want you to

sit back for a moment and I want
you to think about the answer.

Just take a minute to think about it.

And then I wanna see in the chat
what you think your answer is.

Okay.

So here's the big question for
this evening for coming from me.

What is the purpose of
suggestion in trance?

What is the purpose of
suggestion in trance?

Hmm.

So, you know, guys know how to do this.

Get into the physiology of curiosity.

You know, stroke your beards
even if you don't have beards.

Hmm.

What is the purpose of suggestion in tra?

Hmm.

Uh, I got to think about it quite a
bit 'cause it relates to reframing.

So you only had a minute
to think about it.

But what do you think is the
purpose of suggestion in Charles?

Let's hear from you guys.

Well not hear from you.

'cause I wanna keep the mute.

The, the mutes might it?

No, the, the mic's muted.

Options to implant a
new state, a new story.

Gosh, some of you have come in
really quickly, haven't you?

Probably didn't take that minute.

Hold on.

Let's scroll back up.

Creating possibilities in the
direction of desired state.

Oh, that sounds like a hypnotic induction.

Or certainly a deeper, doesn't it
deeper offer a new pathway for thoughts

to travel to help with change work?

How specifically lha, how specifically
does it help with change work

to change behavior and state?

How specifically does it
change behavior and state?

How do suggestions do that
to implant a new story?

Possibly could be a new story,
could be a variation on a story,

could be a a, a different ending

options.

Yeah.

Um, sometimes we need to have a
fork in the crossroads, don't we?

Instead of just going in straight line.

I like those selection
restrictional violations.

You know?

Is there a fork in the crossroads to open
and shift beliefs to create a new program?

Adding more options and flexibility?

Yeah.

You guys have got the
idea to reframe the mind.

How specifically does that help?

By reframing the mind,

Milton Erickson said it was to
bypass conscious mind limitations

and to evoke potentials.

So to open up potentiality and
to provide newer and better

mental maps for navigating life.

I.

Better mental maps.

You know, when we unscrew our heads
and we take the maps out through which

we navigate the world, those maps that
tell us the ways of familiarity, the

ways that have worked for us in the past

that contain all of the beliefs
and the ideas that we've so quickly

jumped to conclusions and made,

um, in hypnotic realities.

'cause one of the things that I say I
love about doing this practice group is it

gets me to kind of go back to the library
and pull out a few books and I go, oh,

I know there was something else he said,
Ericsson and I should have written down

the page number, but I'll have to find it.

And if anyone wants to know where
this is, is in hypnotic realities.

And he talks about suggestion and he
says, suggestion or rather, suggestibility

is composed of two elements.

The ability to receive
an impulse from without.

And the idio plastic faculty,

the ability to change your mind.

I mean, everything Milton
said was a trance, wasn't it?

You know, it's the suggestion
or suggestibility composed of

two elements, the ability to
receive an impulse from without.

And the idio plastic FA faculty,
the ability to change your mind.

So it's the ability, the
purpose of suggestion is to be

able to let its ideas go in.

And then the idio plasticity is the
ability and the willingness of the mind

to change and to reorganize that map.

So, for some of you who might be a
little bit new to NLP or hypnosis, I,

I wanna put a little bit of a pre-frame
around this, what we're doing, okay.

In the structure of magic.

In fact, I've got the actual quote here.

So let's see.

See if I can actually give you the
right quote from the structure of magic.

Let me find, I've got
reams and reams of notes.

Bear with me.

Or maybe I'll just paraphrase it.

Just talk amongst yourselves for a moment.

Somewhere, somewhere,
somewhere, somewhere.

I've got some, I've got so many notes.

Okay, I'm gonna paraphrase it.

People with problems operate from
impoverished maps of reality.

You, many of you on trainings
would've heard me say that before.

Anyone remember me saying that before?

Few of you?

Yeah.

So what does that mean?

We, we have, we create maps from.

The experiences of life.

And we use those to navigate
our way through life.

And if those maps are impoverished,
if they're poor maps, they don't

take us on the right journey.

They don't take us to
the right destination.

Maybe they keep taking us around in
circles or we don't go anywhere with

the map 'cause it's impoverished.

So our job as communicators, when
we are working to help people, is

to help people to enrich their map.

So John, Brenda, and Richard
Bander said People operate from

impoverished maps and as therapists
we help people to enrich their map.

'cause they were talking from
the perspective of therapists, we

help them to redraw their maps,
to be cartographers of their mind.

And suggestibility is based upon our
ability to give them impulse from

the outside and their ability and
willingness to be plastic enough in

order to take the suggestions and change.

Then they get to redraw the map and
hopefully this map is a better map and it

will take them to where they want to go.

I just wanna check, does that make sense?

As a framework?

Does everyone get that?

Can I just have a show of hands?

Yeah.

To me it's foundational.

When I'm working with someone, I want
to get a better idea of them map of

reality and how do, how do I do that?

Some, someone in the chat.

How do I get a better understanding
of somebody's map of reality?

Yeah.

I ask questions then metamodel questions.

Where specifically might I
go at the very beginning?

What sort of questions might I ask at the
very beginning in order to enrich the map?

Rather than me just going, I am
now going to metamodel you, I'm

going to challenge your deletions.

We are getting there.

Ask, what do you want?

What do you want?

Okay, so we, we've all gotta
do this in an Al Pacino voice.

What do you want?

Okay, what do you want?

And what model is the, what
do you want question in?

Where does that sit?

Yeah.

So the question, why are you here?

That's a great one.

Why are you here?

To my clients, well-formed goals, Celia.

Well done.

Celia wins a prize.

I dunno what it is.

Okay.

Just, um, my adoration and love.

There we go.

Um, well-formed goals.

Now what do you want?

All of those questions help us to, for
us to enrich our map and understanding

of somebody's reality, but it also
helps them to get a better understanding

of their map and to explore it.

Okay?

Now while I'm going through eliciting and
listening really carefully listening, I.

Sometimes people need a
damn good listening to.

It's a phrase that our colleague
Gloria uses a lot, which I love.

I heard him went, oh,
I'm gonna borrow that.

I will give credit to Gloria.

Sometimes they need a just a damn
good listening to, and they will leak

information that's come from the map.

So now I've got a more enriched
understanding of the map and

they've got a more enriched
understanding of their map as well.

And what's gonna happen is the maps
going to reveal and the questions

that we ask are gonna reveal where
there are the obstacles, where there

are the restrictions, where there are
thresholds, where there are limitations,

where there are places where maybe
they're too scared to go, where

there are places where there's been
familiarity and they just keep staying.

It's stuck in the familiar and
the revelation of those obstacles.

Those limitations and those
thresholds that tells us where there's

some valuable work, doesn't it?

How many of you know that at some,
somewhere, someplace in your map

of reality, you have got a block,
a limitation, some resistance,

a threshold, something like that
as stopping you from really fully

expressing your full potentiality?

Anyone and the rest of you, you fib
about other things as well, do you?

Okay, let's just see
those hands go up again.

Let's have a look.

Hold on, don't we?

Aren't we all in the
caring and sharing space?

Yeah.

Well maybe it's 'cause
there's always more.

Maybe there's always more.

So what I invite you to do during
this practice session is to

explore ways to make sure that you
have that idio plastic faculty.

It means you've gotta be willing
to change your mind, be really

willing to change your mind.

Now, a little bit of willingness is good.

A little bit of change is
good, but what tends to happen

is the system reverts back.

'cause systems don't
like to change, do they?

You know, systems like, 'cause
if a system's working, the

system wants to stay as it is.

So sometimes we need to have big
changes or incremental changes.

One change that leads to the
next or the next, to the next,

to eventually the system changes.

So your ability to have more idio
plasticity of your mind comes from

your willingness because, you know,
your, your all accomplished at this.

You're here to play, aren't you?

You've got open minds.

You're willing to explore
and try new things.

Your, the real skill is you being
able to convince your clients to just

follow your blessed instructions and
explore that ability to change their

mind and have the willingness to expand
and try new ways of seeing things.

'cause do you know what they'll do?

They will fight to hold
on to their limitations.

That's what a lot of people will do.

They'll hold onto limitations
simply because it's familiarity.

So what I want you to do a, a
quick thought experiment is this.

I want you to take a moment and just
think of a limitation that you have,

uh, a belief,

a threshold,

uh, maybe like you're at the edge of
the map of your reality, or maybe it's

unknown territory you don't wanna go with.

There's a, there's a
limitation, there's a belief.

I just wanna check, has everyone got one?

Or some of you, some of you
thinking deeply, is that because

you've got too many to choose from?

Yeah.

Let me just check in.

Who has one to work with?

Fabulous.

Joel, I'm not seeing any sign from you.

We're picking on you.

There we go guys.

It's a bit slow today, isn't he?

Alright.

Okay, so I'm gonna take you through
a, and by the way, hold onto this one.

Not like it's your precious, okay?

And when I say hold onto it,
you don't have to defend it.

I want you to be, to be willing
to shake it up a little bit and to

see it from a different perspective

and to explore what it's like
from different points of view.

'cause that's what reframing is,
is to take something and see it

through from a different framework.

But when we see it through
a different framework.

We see things that maybe we hadn't seen,
if we'd just seen it one particular

way, that's being stuck, okay?

Seeing things only one way doing
things, only one way is being stuck.

And when you get good and better at
reframing, you will unstick not just

yourself, but also other people.

So make a mental note of what
this limitation is, and I want

you just to clo close your eyes.

Just close your eyes.

Now, Milton didn't say that
suggestion or suggestibility is based

upon the depth of trance at all.

He didn't say anything like that.

He did say the purpose of trance is to
bypass conscious mind limitations to

evoke potentials and provide new and
better metal maps for navigating life.

Yet you all know that people
are all in a trance anyway.

Whatever trance you are now in
is just the right trance for

you to be able to look at that.

I'm gonna call it a belief, okay?

I'm gonna call it a belief.

Whatever it is you're thinking about,
it's a belief because even if it's

a threshold, it's still only you
believe there's a threshold there.

If it's a limitation, it's still only
because you believe it's a limitation.

And if you hold onto that belief,
well, let's think about that.

I want you to imagine seeing
the belief in front of you.

Now, I don't know how
you're gonna represent it.

Maybe you will see it in a written
form, maybe you might see some

form of symbology to it, but

a way where you can recognize that
that's the belief and there's, there

will be a structure to a belief.

'cause there always is
a structure to a belief.

There's either cause, effect, beliefs,
or complex equivalence beliefs.

Cause effect.

Something happens and there's an effect.

Complex equivalence, something happens
and we attribute a meaning to it.

So the belief is there.

There's a structure to it.

I want you to give yourself
permission to see the belief and

imagine moving back through time.

Now, I dunno how you're gonna do this.

Maybe you're gonna imagine the past is
to the right of you and the future is

to the left for the purpose of this.

That would be a useful thing to do.

And I want you to imagine moving
back through time parallel to the

past and going back to some of
the, some of the earlier moments.

So you're only observing, you're
just observing, where maybe you

picked up these beliefs or this
belief, maybe things happened.

You can change the timeframe reference.

So you can look at.

The events, the situations, the people
when maybe this belief was first born.

And some of you, you'll
have clarity on that.

Some of you, you may
just get a sense of it.

The thing is, whether you are consciously
aware of it or not doesn't matter

because you, unconscious mind is aware
of when it first formed this belief.

'cause you weren't born with it.

You learned something.

And perhaps there was a time in the
past where that belief would have served

a genuine, useful purpose for you.

Maybe it kept you safe or secure.

Maybe it kept you just quiet.

You know, I've heard
people that were told to.

Don't leap too high.

You know, children are meant
to be seen but not heard.

All sorts of limitations like that.

They can be the breeding
ground, the formation of all

sorts of limiting beliefs.

So I want you to give yourself permission
to float back parallel to time, back

to when those beliefs were born.

So you can see them for what
they were, which was they

served a purpose at some point.

Yet now you've outgrown those beliefs.

They may have served a purpose.

We honor, we honor the ser, the
service they've given to us.

The first thing we do is we
honor, we acknowledge, we accept.

We appreciate that they
had a good intention.

And once we've honored that.

Once we acknowledge, once
we appreciate the intention,

we can ask the unconscious to be
willing to look at anything else that

may be there to support the belief.

So what I want you to do now is to move
back to the present and just to consider

any of the, what we call secondary gain.

You might get from
holding onto this belief.

What currently does holding
onto this belief do for you?

What does it give you?

What does do you get from it?

What's the secondary gain?

That means the belief still
serves a purpose at some level

because when you know what the
secondary gain is, you can then

start to look at alternatives.

You can preserve the positive functions
of the gain, but get rid of whatever

the cost is for holding onto the belief.

So how are you gonna do that?

Well, maybe you can look into the
future, the timeline, if it, the

future extends off to the left.

Move yourself to the left and
look at the consequences of you

holding onto that limitation.

What's the downside?

The what's the, what's the
cost of holding onto that?

Is that what you want?

Probably not

come back to the present and
just imagine stepping back and

looking at the bigger picture.

Look at all of the.

Ecology around you, your
family, your friends, your work

colleagues, your relationships.

Are there any other secondary
gains that you get by holding

onto that limiting belief?

Because the blind spots, once they're
revealed, they're no longer blind spots.

We get the chance to experiment
and look at different ways

of preserving the positive benefits
of the belief, but without the belief.

I want you to give yourself permission
to look at multiple different

perspectives of this belief.

Could you see it as maybe even funny?

Could you see it as ridiculous?

Could you see it as childlike?

Could you see it as cute?

Could you see it in what other ways
where you might have a completely

different perspective of it?

And just take a moment just to
use your creative imagination.

I want you to imagine how many other
ways there are to maintain the benefit of

the belief, but without the limitations,

how many other ways are there that
maybe you've not even considered?

'cause you just accepted
the limitation as it was.

So I like to honor.

The ecology.

I like to address the secondary gain.

I like to enrich mental maps,
and I like to increase requisite

variety and requisite variety.

It comes from cybernetics and it's the
study of systems and it's the ability

to be able to have more variations
and flexibility than limitations.

It's the ability for you to look at
something that maybe has five ways

of blocking you and stopping you, but
you have five ways of overcoming it,

and this comes from you being willing
to explore multiple perspectives given

you, as many of you rightly said,
when I asked that question about why

do we give suggestions in trance?

Gives you options.

People that are stuck have no options.

If they've got one way of doing something,
there's only one way of doing something.

The more options and choices you have,
the more flexibility you have and it's

time to flex your ability so you become
the cause of the effect of your life.

A lot of people live their life
at effect, where the outside world

is the cause of their experience.

It's time for you to have the ability
to flex and see different ways, so you

become the creative, your experience.

You get to rewrite, to redraw your maps.

You get to reframe them.

You can look at something and
you can change the meaning of it.

You could look at something like a belief.

You can see we're in another context that
would be useful, but not in this one.

So in a short while, I'm gonna hand
over to Tina and you're gonna explore

multiple ways, different ways of
stretching and flexing, enriching mental

maps for yourself and for other people.

Now, tonight, while you sleep and
dream, and dream and sleep, I, I invite

and encourage your unconscious to
continue to work on this because this is

something that you bought to the party.

You bought to the practice group.

You raised it up, you bought it
into your conscious awareness, and

you've already begun some work on
it just by this guided reflective

exercise, this ecological reframing.

I want you to take the limitation into the
next part of what we do and to practice.

Practice looking at limitations
in completely different ways.

Instead of seeing them as obstacles.

Maybe you could see
them as stepping stones.

Now that's a reframe, is it not?

Here's one last thing for you to consider.

Who would you be without that limitation?

Who would you be without that limitation?

Oh, but I'm not gonna honor my word.

That wasn't the last thing to consider.

I just thought of one
more you to consider.

What makes you think you have
to believe in that limitation?

What makes you think you have to
even believe in that limitation?

Could you doubt it?

Who would you be without that?

So in a moment, I'm gonna ask you to open
your eyes and then come back and just

take a moment and then just in the chat,
what did you get from that experience?

So take a deep breath in.

Open your eyes.

A big stretch.

Oh, shake yourself out.

Who likes watermelon?

No, no.

That's the watermelon break.

State.

Sareen does.

She likes watermelon.

Okay.

She's not the only one.

Reflect upon it.

What insights did you get?

From that guided thought experiment.

I call that ecological reframing,
that four step process.

And I put a blog out today on the website.

So when we're done here, there's, there's
a, it's too much to train here actually,

so I just wanted to take you through it.

Go and read the blog, go through
and play with that four part model.

It's not an NLP model, it's just a
process I developed many years ago.

So, um, in the chat, what did you get?

Insights.

Have a look.

I'm not answering
questions about the blog.

I wanna know about,
know about the exercise.

A limitation being a stepping stone,
not an obstacle is a revelation.

Nice.

Put space between me and my obstacle.

Yeah.

'cause if you do that, you can go over it,
go under it, go around it multiple ways.

I haven't, hold on.

So do quick, slow down.

I have a new job.

Instead of enabling others, my new job is
to empower others so they feel stronger.

Oh, I like this one.

Wow.

That was so profound for me.

I realize holding onto the belief allows
me to make excuses when I make mistakes.

Nice.

Well, on It's about a fear of
failure and I never knew that before.

Forces you to look at the
limitation from several angles.

Yeah.

What you don't achieve and what you
could achieve and how you could be nice.

So I'm not gonna go through all of these.

What I will do is, um,
we'll save the chat.

Um, and maybe we'll do
something with the chat.

I don't know, I'm not gonna
promise anything 'cause I know

I'll end up having to do it.

I'm going on holiday soon,
so I can't be bothered.

Uh, they're not my limitations,
but inherited beliefs.

Yes.

You uh, uh, what's that?

What's that joke?

Oh yeah.

With the best will in the world.

I own everything.

I love that as a joke.

Okay, so, um, but how many limitations
have been handed on to you and you

didn't even know that they were
handed down to you and you picked

them up and been carrying them around?

Seriously, put them down.

I can change the outcome if
I don't stick to the belief.

Yeah.

Fabulous.

So you've got some good
alternative ways of seeing things.

Those are reframes by the way.

That's what we do.

We reframe something by thinking of it
in a different way and it changes our

map and it changes our thinking, changes
our behaviors, and changes our results.

Fabulous stuff.

So I'm now gonna zip it and
I'm gonna hand over to Tina.

Over to you, Tina, over to me.

Reframing, ah, love reframing.

I found when I first started
out seeing clients, I.

When they would come to see me, I would
reframe their problems while I was asking

questions, getting more information.

And sometimes I actually managed
to get rid of their problem

before the work was being done.

I used to give like a free consultation
25, 30 years ago when I first

started seeing people, they'd get
a 20 minute free chat with me.

Um, they loved it 'cause they could
get to know me and ask me questions.

And as a new therapist, I got
to get all the information I

needed before I got to see them.

'cause at that point I was a little
bit unsure, oh, what am I gonna do?

And that was kind of like my safety
net when I first started out.

Then I realized that by reframing
while I was chatting to them,

sometimes I got rid of their problems.

And it was a free chat.

Oh.

So I stopped doing that.

Although I can't, I think when you, the
kind of reframing that I do and, and I've

seen Steve do it as well when we've been
training, is it's kind of like teasing.

We reframe with humor, we chive people.

'cause what happens when you laugh, you
get different chemicals in your brain.

And when you can actually see something
as being silly, something that you built

up to be really serious and you break
it down and you get them to look at it

from a different perspective, especially
with humor, it can be so powerful.

Now when you're gonna do this, or
even if you're just reframing, you

have to do it in a respectful way.

You've gotta do it in a way that
helps them stop that rigid thinking.

Somebody got their microphone
on, can I hear something?

Okay.

You, you've gotta do it in such a way
that they can see the rigid thinking.

They can step outside of that
unhelpful state, those patterns

they're running and look at it in
a new light Now, done skillfully.

It creates a lightness, um, a, a
safe place for them to actually

look at something differently.

Find that humor, you know, by
playing the devil's advocate as

well, maybe siding with the negative
half of their ambivalence towards

their life and their life's goals.

You know, sometimes people come in
and they're a bit like, um, like

ior, oh, nothing's ever gonna work.

Oh, I've tried everything.

And oh,

and if you've got somebody like
that in front of you, you've

gotta change their state.

You've gotta move them
into a different position.

Now, I grew up in a family where
we teased and we chided each other.

And it's something that you do with your
friends who here, you've got friends.

And when you're talking to them,
I've gotta go onto the um, uh, the

gallery view now so I can see you all.

When you're talking to your
friends, you tease them.

I know Steve doesn't have any friends,
so he's just shaking his head like this.

You know, you tease
them, you chime to them.

Um, and, and they'll, they might come
to you with something really terrible.

I remember once someone, I knew he was
in the army and, and people in the army

have the most bizarre sense of humor.

Now they have to, because of the
situations they're in, they're in

horrendous situations sometimes if they're
in a war zone or a particular incident.

And he was telling this story about his
colleague who'd been blown up and was

worried about something and he'd lost a
limb and he's going, I've lost my arm.

And they're going, no, you haven't.

I've got it here.

And all the soldiers were just
laughing and that's how they get

through the whole stressful situation.

Years ago here in London, we
had, um, some terrorists around

London Bridge, and they were.

Stabbing people and
they killed some people.

They injured a lot of people quite badly.

And there was one particular guy.

And in London we have a
football club called Mill Wall.

And the Mill War supporters are
said to be, you know, quite fierce.

A lot of them what they
will fight for their club.

There's lots of fighting that goes on.

And there was this guy in this
pub who was a mill wall supporter

and he was the whole, whole
generalization of how many people

think of a mill wall supporter to be.

And he took umbrage that these people
were trying to stab people in his pub

while he was having a quiet drink.

And he defended the
other people in the pub.

And he was stabbed multiple times.

He did manage to, to get knives
off of some of these terrorists.

And he ended up in hospital.

And he's sitting in hospital and
he's got stitches and he is bandaged

up and he is been stabbed in the
face and he just looks a mess.

Yes.

Um, and they, they were talking to
him and asking how he was doing and,

um, commending his bravery and, and
he said, well, mates bought me a book.

And they said, yeah.

And he went, look, and the
book that his friends bought

him was entitled Learn to Run.

Now this is the kind of
chiding that I'm talking about.

It's the kind of chiding that
people do do with their friends.

Now you can do this with your clients.

To be able to do this with
your clients, you need to be.

Deep rapport.

Now, if any of you have seen Richard
Bangla, he does this all the time.

He chis the people he's working with, he's
teasing them, and you do it in such a way.

You are not, you are not.

You are not making fun of their pain.

It's all about having a twinkle in your
eye, smile on your lips, and it's, you

are employing like the affectionate
banter between friends, using humor

to help sensitize and desensitize
them to their problematic behavior.

Now, while you're doing this,
the purpose is to affirm their

self-worth verbally and behaviorally.

And get it so that they assert
themselves appropriately.

'cause you'll find that if you do
tease them, you get that rapport

going and you can tease them.

They will begin to say things
like, well, no, that's, that's

not right because I can do this.

And they'll begin to tell you
how, how confident they can

be and how they can do things.

They begin to defend themselves.

Uh, now I, I have a, a, a strange way
of working with, um, depressives, for

example, people that are depressed.

I make them convince me to work with
them because while they're convincing

me to help them, they're having to
go to all those places that as a

hypnotherapist or a npa, I'm gonna
wanna take them to change their state.

And also while they're giving me
those arguments and they're defending

why I should work for them and all
the things that I'll be able to help

them do, it then gives me an insight
into how their brain is working.

Now we have a friend, Steve and
I, and some of you will know her

and you would've met her, and she
knows that I tell this story, so

she's not, I do have her permission.

She was amazing.

NPA and hypnotherapist, I, and
she stopped working with people

because she couldn't charge them.

She didn't feel that she
could actually say, okay, so

this session's going to be X.

Get the money up front.

Get a deposit, whatever she
took, she just couldn't do it.

And she, then she was paying for
rooms to see clients and then she

couldn't take any money off of them.

So in the end, she stopped
working with people

and, and she was saying, I, I dunno
what I'm gonna do because I love

working with people, but, but I can't.

And there's all sorts of
suggestions that were given.

Um, and I said, so when they
come to see you in the office,

do you, you know, you, you, they
come in and they fill out a form.

Oh no, they've already
filled out the form.

She said, what I do, the first
thing I do is I make them a cup

of tea and I give them a biscuit.

And I said, there you go.

The session's free, the tea
in the biscuit, 150 quid.

And of course she laughed.

And while she's laughing.

Her, her brain chemistry is changing.

She's beginning to, to
see it as being silly.

And now instead of this huge limitation,
she's like, oh, I can't, I can't do that.

And I went, well, all right then.

A cup of tea, a hundred pounds,
50 quid if you want biscuits.

And I was just being really,
really silly about the whole thing

until she was giggling because she could
see the joke and the silliness in it.

Like the, the poor guy, the mill Wilson
Porter in hospital covered in stitches and

bandages was laughing 'cause his friends
bought him a book that said Learn to run.

Now, doing this with humor,

as I said, you have to be careful.

You need to do it with a
smile like you're teasing.

I mean, if I'd have said to so, well,
why don't you charge 'em for the tea

and coffee, then that's a different
to, well, I know what you can do.

Charge 'em 150 quid for a
cup of tea and a biscuit.

It's different depending as
to how you make that delivery.

Now somebody puts

a limitation in the chat.

I'm not gonna mention any names.

And this is something that again,
we hear quite regularly from people.

Um, this particular person said that
they've been trying to stop smoking and

they can't stop smoking, and they're
beginning to feel that they can't be any

good at what they're gonna do because
how can they help people stop smoking

if they can't stop smoking themselves?

So how could you reframe
that for somebody?

You could put your answers in the chat.

How could that be reframing
somebody that we know?

This particular person was morbidly
obese and she was brilliant at weight

loss and getting people to lose weight.

There you are, you're
on the journey together.

You understand them more than anyone else.

What a gift.

You know what it's like to struggle.

You have insight.

You know all the ways you
have lived experience.

You're speaking from experience.

There we are.

We have limitations.

We just need time to work on them.

And the thing about this
particular person, I.

Who was morbidly obese but
was brilliant at weight loss.

Her clients were relieved when they
came to see her that they weren't seeing

this, um, size zero model type person
that was gonna help them lose weight

because she would know what's happening.

And you see all those reframes
in there and That's right.

It's like, I've lived it.

I'm not preaching from a pedestal.

I'm offering you a hand
from the same place.

You don't want to end up like me.

Yes, yes, you could do that.

So we had.

A situation.

We, I, I had a situation
in Orlando last July.

There was a young man on the course
who was desperate to be an NLP trainer.

He was on the master practitioner, then
he was gonna do the trainers training.

He flew all the way to the US from Europe
and he was sat telling me when he was

on the master practitioner training,
um, that he had this amazing plan to

be the best NLP trainer in Europe.

He had everything set up.

He's got his business plan ready,
he's got everything in place.

He just needs his master practitioner
certificate and to do the trainer's

training and get his trainer's certificate

and what a lot of people must,
I guess they go into it without

really thinking about it.

And, and I did when I took my NLP
trainer's training way back in the.

Frozen depth of time,
I didn't consider this.

You have to be able to
demonstrate different techniques.

You have to be able to show your
students the different techniques.

And on Phobia Day in Orlando,
there were snakes and spiders, and

he had three people on the master
practitioner working with him to help

him get over his fear of spiders.

And right near the end of the session,
he came up to me with these three people

were with him, and he said, I can't do it.

I can't get rid of my fear.

I dunno what I'm gonna do.

Never gonna be able to be an NLP
trainer if I've still got this fear.

And it's ridiculous.

Everything in my brain is
just going, no, and, and, and,

and, and he was just so upset.

He was almost crying.

And I'd been working with him on the
must prac, and I'd been teasing him.

And we had a lot of banter going on.

Um, and I, and I, I said,
well, you know, not everybody's

meant to be an NLP trainer.

You could find something else to do.

Well, no, no, I have to be an NLP trainer.

It's my dream.

It's what I really,
really, really want to do.

Now, while all this was going
on, I was holding a tarantula in

my hand, and he's talking to me
and he hasn't seen the spider.

And I'm standing there and
I've got the spider in my hand,

and he hasn't even noticed.

And I was just saying, well,
yeah, you'll find something else.

It'll be fine.

Don't worry about it.

Enjoy the course.

And he's got, no, I have to do this.

He said, I can't go near spiders.

And I went, oh.

And he, he called himself Jimmy.

So I looked at the
spider and I went, James.

And he went, my name's Jimmy.

I said, I'm not talking to you.

I'm talking to James.

And I pointed to the tarantula

and then he looked and he
watched me talk to the spider.

And he wasn't phobic and
he wasn't freaking out.

And something later he said,
something clicked in his mind when

I, when I said, well, you know,
you'll find something else to do.

Not everybody's meant
to be an NLP trainer.

And then I was talking to the spider and
he suddenly said, give me the spider.

And I went, no, you can't have him.

And he said, I need to hold that spider.

And I went, no, no.

I said, James is really, really
delicate and I, I don't trust you.

Why should I trust you with my spider?

And to cut a long story, short
or shorter, within about three

minutes, he's holding the trencher.

And he was just laughing.

Now everybody went through all
the, all the processes and, and all

the techniques and nothing worked.

And all I did was just tease him and tried
him and reframe the thoughts in his mind.

So that's what you are
all going to do now,

in a moment, Tanya's gonna
put you into groups of three.

Now, if you're not gonna wanna do
the exercise, can I ask that you drop

out now while I set the exercise up?

Um, and then you can pop back in
about 20 minutes and join us at the

end when we close everything down.

So, Tanya's gonna put
you into rooms of three.

As you do with the exercises,
choose who's gonna be a, B, and c.

A is going to voice a limitation.

B and C will then challenge will chide,
will tease, will reframe, and then after

three or four, four minutes of doing that
switch and then B will voice a limitation

and the other two will chide and reframe.

So we are gonna give you

15 minutes

when you get into your
room to do the exercise.

Tanya, are you ready?

Nearly.

Nearly.

That's okay.

Sorry, I'm recreating.

'cause we went down to
less people then I thought.

Oh, and now we've got

a few rooms of four.

So let's see how it goes.

Mostly threes.

There we go.

So you can see your invitations.

I am letting in the waiting room people.

Okay, so we'll have
everybody back in 30 seconds.

Fabulous, everybody.

If everybody, everybody that's still here,

50 people drops off the practice group.

Could you believe that?

You said go into your rooms if
you're not gonna do the practice.

55 people left.

Did you leave and come back?

Some of you, I know some of you
will have you sneaked back in.

Practice is, is what makes the difference.

Yeah.

Fear of being chided, whatever.

I don't know.

I'm not gonna mind read.

Yeah, I'm not gonna mind read.

Um, it can also be, and by the way,
it's no big deal if you, if you

don't wanna do the practice, you
don't, don't have to do the practice.

You still get something
from being here, won't you?

But there's something about going
into that situation where you've got

a couple of people who are willing
to just play and explore with you.

I mean, when else are you gonna get that
chance to bring out a limitation and

go, go on, tear it apart, have a go at
it, you know, make it seem as ridiculous

as I probably know that it already is.

Yeah, it's a great opportunity.

It's only 15 minutes as well, isn't it?

So I'd like to know in the chat,
what did you get from that?

What insights, understandings,
experiences, breakthroughs.

What did you get from that?

And then we'll open up the
mic to a couple of you so we

can actually hear your voices.

That practice was very helpful.

I like that.

It's very understated.

It's very helpful.

Love it.

It felt silly to defend
my limiting belief.

Isn't that so?

You know, you go, Hmm.

You kind of see through your own
bullshit, which is belief systems bs.

And it does make it, when you can't defend
and winning, you can see through it.

It, it's like the system
loosens up the belief system.

It's like a game of Jen.

Yeah.

And you kind of, they, what they're
doing is they're pulling it apart

and then sometimes the belief
just collapses, which is fabulous.

That's why reframing, um, we can
call it replaying by the way.

We can, if it's, say you picked up
earlier, you can blame your parents.

Right.

Um, let's have a look at it.

We won't be setting up a business.

We'll be stuck a, a fun.

Fun.

Fun.

I dunno.

What a fun, fun.

That's like Tina, she said on
do, do she say, you do do this.

You only need one.

Do Tina.

Just so you know.

Okay.

A do do I like a do do do
is completely different.

Yeah.

Um, and charge clients
for the teas and biscuits.

Yeah.

It's a very creative, fun process
and it is creative and fun.

Just remember this though.

Creative and fun is fabulous.

What it does is it rewrites the map and
it's the map is where the coding is.

It's all the programming.

And you can't operate congruently
from ridiculous programming.

The system just doesn't do it.

Yeah.

You'll find yourself doing stuff and you
go, oh, I'm doing that stupid stuff again.

It's really powerful.

It was quick to establish rapport.

It should be actually, and
it's one of the benefits.

I say that's why I'm amused
when people just disappear off.

It doesn't fit my map of the world
because I turn up and I fully engage and

immerse in everything and give it a go
and dive in and make mistakes and it's.

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable?

Well, there's a limitation.

So you've got, so you've got a
group of people who are here who

it is quick to establish rapport.

'cause rapport is trust and harmony.

We're all in it together
to just play and explore.

So there's rapport at
that level straight away.

Sorry, I, I like this limitation.

It's easier to help other people
with their limitation than your own.

There's a bit, Alex next.

Oh, did you catch that?

Whoever said that one.

Hold it up.

Yes.

Really?

Okay.

Really, there's a limitation,
if ever I heard one.

If you say so.

Okay.

First person to come up
with a reframe for that.

Go on.

Let's, let's hear it at the bottom.

Yeah.

Yeah.

So I, I guess you're the sort of person
that when the oxygen masks come down,

you're gonna be putting them on everybody
else and leave yours to the last, are you.

Did anyone come up with a good one?

It's fun to poke the beehive for someone
else, and in helping that other person

you are, in turn helping yourself grow.

Oh, that's too nice and supportive.

Melissa, that's far too, too encouraging.

So it reframes our perceptions and
we all three have begun to resolve.

I I'm interested in the ones reframing
that it's easier to help other people.

If I can do it for you,
I can do it for me.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Okay.

Bit, bit, bit more work on those,
those, uh, challenging reframes.

So, um, we've got a bit of time.

It'd be nice to hear a few people's voices
and, and hear what you've got from this.

So if you've got any questions, comments,
observations about that particular

exercise or about the earlier, um,
reflective exercise that we did, anyone

like to open up the mic and have a chat?

And if not, we can go home early.

I'm okay with that.

I've got bags.

I've got bags to pack.

I'm all right with that.

Hang up.

Who wants to, who wants
to ask us something?

Melissa, from the Valleys.

Hello.

Hello, hello.

So it's not a question,
it's a reflection on that.

Um, I just wanted to say
how amazing Emra was.

Um, so my limitation was to do with
my health, um, that I feel my health

holds me back in my business and
that I'll never be able to break

through the constant health issues.

And Ra coincidentally, um, is in a
rehab center for breaking her femur

at the moment, and she was able
to demonstrate how when she does

physio in the mornings, there's a
guy to the right of her who's like.

50 paces ahead and a guy to
the left who's a little slower.

And if she compares herself to these
people instead of measuring her own

development and achievements each
day, then she won't, you know, she,

she can't see her own measurements
of growth and success and development

and improvement, and also the belief
that she's gonna do better the next

day is what's keeping her going.

And she was brilliant at reframing.

Um, she gave me such amazing
insights into, into that.

And I, I sat there thinking, I'm
stupid, feeling sorry for myself.

This girl is logged in from a, from
a rehab center, you know, she, she

in pain and she's here right now and
I'm feeling like, sorry for myself.

So that was brilliant.

Yeah.

I just wanted to share that.

Nice And well done.

Nice.

Well done For her, for actually
utilizing something which is real and

personal and ongoing at this moment, and
finding a way to use it as a metaphor.

Yeah.

Metaphor metaphorical reframing.

Is a thing.

Yeah.

She built really good rapport as well.

Really good.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Well done ra.

Good job.

Yeah, good job.

Well done you for that to you too,
because you are getting better.

Oh, thanks.

You are getting better.

You know, you're practicing, you're
working hard at what you're doing, and

you are achieving way more than you are.

I think you're aware of Oh, thank you.

And you keep showing up.

Yeah.

And that's important.

You just keep showing up.

Fabulous.

Well done.

You.

It's, yeah.

Yeah.

Good job.

Thanks.

I said from Debbie.

Hi, Debbie.

Can you unmute?

Hi, how are you?

It's great to see you guys.

I love you guys.

Great.

Yeah.

And you again.

Yes, I know, right?

I love this stuff.

I'll follow you guys anywhere.

I'm gonna take all your
courses, eventually watch.

Oh, fabulous.

Okay.

Where's, hold on.

Speak.

Yeah, and she's been following us
for a couple of years now, and she

comes all the way over from Colorado
to hang out with us, so be careful.

That's my plan.

We'll, we'll let you know when
you've reached the threshold.

That's when we serve an injunction.

You to stop.

Uh oh.

You'll have to get a
restraining order load space.

Don't worry.

I love you guys.

I just wanted to step up and say again
that I love you guys and, um, thank you.

I was, they were trying to help
me with the, um, limitation of not

having friends, which is, it's okay.

You know, I'll find 'em when I'm ready.

You know what I mean?

Why is that a limitation?

He thinks it's, it's great.

Right.

Seriously.

I'm sorry.

What's, what's your, what's your problem?

You know, I don't know
that I have one, I guess.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Kindred spirit.

I mean, don't get tuck out of anything.

Exactly.

Yeah.

We get to do what we want
when we want to do it.

Yeah.

Nobody to actually judge us.

We do what we damn well.

Like, and, and the thing is, um,
I mean you gotta, you, you do

realize there are distinctions
about different types of friends.

A lot of people have friends
and they're not really friends.

You, they're, they're just acquaintances.

I remember.

Yeah.

I forgot how you said that though.

Yeah, they're acquaintances.

Lots of people have got acquaintances.

You only gotta look at their
Facebook profile and you go, they

don't know who these people are
and then they have good friends.

'cause they are the sort of
people that you can ring up

and help you to move furniture.

Or bodies in the movie.

And then, and then really good
friends are the ones that you can

ring up later night and they'll help
you move dead bodies if you should.

So need them.

And you don't want many of them.

Okay.

No, that's okay.

I don't have any of
those, but that's okay.

That's, it's good.

Yeah.

One's gonna, no one's gonna, Melissa,
Melissa has got in the chat that you

should consider her, your friend.

She lives in South Wales.

Awesome.

Hi.

In South Wales.

I'm in New Mexico.

Yeah.

Pretty close.

She's lovely.

Similar climates.

Yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

So I'm just curious though, when they
were playing with it and chiding and

teasing and challenging, did you see
some little chinks in the problem?

Did you, did you find a way to maybe
shine a little bit of light on it and see

it in a more positive, productive way?

It was the, I'm afraid of
success is what the problem was.

And then I mentioned that I
didn't have any friends, so

it just kind of came up in.

It's okay.

Yeah.

Okay.

Well that's interesting though.

And that's in, that's important because
sometimes people will express a belief.

It'll start to be pulled apart and then
suddenly something else will come up.

Mm.

Okay.

Something else will pop up again from, in
the deeper structure and it gives you then

something else to maybe just play and work
with and find ways to interact, enrich.

And, and that's when we, we turn to
NLP modeling and we go, well, um,

what are the values of a friend?

Mm-hmm.

You know, make sure you've got
those values clear and how do

other people go out there and find
people and make acquaintances and

turn them into friends over time.

And so it can sometimes be,
'cause someone doesn't have the

strategy, um, and it, that, that's
where maybe the work is to do.

So remember in the practice groups, the
same as some of you come from Mindvalley.

When we do, we do the labs.

A lot of change work doesn't always
deep, full, complete change work doesn't

always happen in the lab exercise.

It's normally little pieces of
work that can make the difference.

So even in these practice groups.

You might even just get some
insights and that might point to

where the work is to, to be done.

We are friends anyway.

Thank you.

You're on our list.

All right.

We're, yeah.

Yes.

I'm, I'm still gonna
follow you guys everywhere.

Thank you so much.

That's fine.

That's, that's to see you.

That's fine.

Can't wait to see you.

Okay.

Debbie, do we got time for one more?

Yeah.

Jane?

Yeah.

Jane.

Hi Jane.

Hi.

Uh, my limitation and my problem with
my cell phone, it takes up all my time.

It's like I'm in quick hands
when I'm in, the whole day is

gone and I'm on my cell phone.

Nothing is accomplished, right?

And the reframe was the exact reframe
considered the cell phone as the lady who

had a problem and I'm trying to help her.

I thought that was really funny.

Fabulous.

Okay.

So you, you saw it in a funny way.

What, what are you gonna do with that?

I was thinking of how can I help her?

Mm.

It was a real, real reframe.

Yeah.

I get that.

Nice.

Yeah.

Good.

She might need rest, you know, if, I
mean, if you, if you, if you're with her

all the time, she may need some peace
and quiet and to just be, put somewhere

to chill out and rest for a while.

Yeah.

Let let the phone have
some meditation time.

Um, by the way, guys, the rest of
you, um, are there any family members

that you have to spend time with?

Any of you?

Was it just me?

Have any family go?

I have to spend time with them?

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Well, I still spend time with
them much, much like my phone.

But what I do is I leave early, you know,
so I cut down the amount of time and I

make sure that I just do what I need to do
and then I'm off and, and out out there.

So it's like Christmas, it's like,
hi everyone, Merry Christmas.

Yay, woo, bye.

I'm off.

See you next year.

So again, when we are doing reframing,
you wanna be relentless with it

and keep on giving other reframes.

'cause that was another
reframe, wasn't it?

Yeah.

Treating it like family members
keep some, there's, you know, those

family members, you really wanna
keep some distance from maybe treat

the phone like one of those people.

Yeah.

So continue to be relentless with these
reframes when you're working with someone.

Thank you, Jane.

Thank you for sharing that.

Thank you.

Jane.

Have we, have we got time for one more?

'cause I mean, Robin's got hand up.

We just, Robin.

Oh, is this, is, is, is
there a good one Robin?

'cause we've got, we're out time.

Of course.

It's a good one.

It's Robin.

Fabulous.

So, um.

My limitation is that I, I think that
I need to have everything started.

I, I finished the, the Mindvalley course
back in January and I haven't done

anything with it, and I think I have
to have everything in place beforehand.

And, um, my group was like, you know,
have, did you learn to drive a car?

It's like, how many, you know,
signs and people did you back into?

And it, it made me think, it's
like, whoa, well wait a minute.

I, I didn't do that when I drove a
car, but I, I tried to drive a car

and I was cautious at first, but,
but doing hypnotherapy and NLP for

people, I really can't hurt them.

Like it, I can't run into them, you
know, and hit them and hurt them

or, or scrape my car or, or do this.

So it's like, wait, wait a minute, like.

I'm not holding myself
back to, to, to be safe.

I'm, I, I, I'm, I can't
really hurt people with this.

And even if I do it bad, even if I'm
driving badly, you know, I can hurt

people, but at least when I'm doing
this, even if I do it badly, there's

still gonna be something that helps.

And that just, that just
totally flipped it in my brain.

Brilliant.

Oh, that's brilliant.

So I was thankful for that.

Yeah, well done whoever did that.

So it's a context reframe.

Taking something and shifting the
frame from hypnotherapy and driving

and just shifting it across and going,
Hey look, this is one way you did it.

Look at it this way.

Yeah.

So, um, someone just asked,
where do I find Steve's blog?

Go to the website.

Go to our website, and there's a
section up there called Blog and vlog.

Really easy.

Okay.

And look down there and it's down there.

So we wanna encourage people
to keep going to the website.

'cause then you get the updates.

Um, and for those perfectionists,
and robin's not the only one in the,

in the group, there's some reframes
there around perfectionism as well.

Okay.

So use them as a starting point
and keep exploring how many other

ways can you, can you reframe it?

So we are pretty much done.

Okay.

Yeah.

Um, last thing I want to do, um, I meant
to have prepared this earlier, going

to in the chat, drop a feedback form.

And so before we all disappear off,
if you would be willing to give us

some feedback for tonight, maybe
a testimonial that we Fabulous.

Um, so there's a link there.

It'll take you to a form.

That would be great if you do that.

I really appreciate that.

So, um, yeah, I'll be here for next month.

So what are we doing next month, Tina?

I've forgotten.

Oh, we did talk, we did
talk to you about yesterday.

We did talk about yesterday.

And I've forgotten already.

What did we say we doing?

Yeah, we did.

We thought, let's do that next month.

Let's keep them waiting.

Yeah.

Guess I, yes.

Okay.

Yeah.

Well, we'll keep them waiting while I go.

Looking for what it was.

No, we'll, we'll let you know.

And, and, and, and, and somebody's put, I
I did put the website in the chat as well

where the, the, the blogs are and somebody
said, where is, where is your website?

It's the same place you went
to, to register to come here.

That's our website.

Yeah.

I mean, if you got here because
you didn't go to the website,

you've just gate crashed.

Yeah.

You're not following the rules.

I mean, follow the rules.

Okay.

You follow the rules, you're
gonna get amazing results.

Mm-hmm.

Outstanding results, results
way beyond your expectations.

You gate crash.

You don't just say you all,
we're pretty much done.

I'm getting ready to go on holiday you for
holiday now I've one more client session

and I'm gonna tomorrow in your, I'm really
looking forward to, and then I'm gonna.

Switch everything off
Tsunamis allowing, yeah.

Somebody did.

So guys in the chat earlier about
surfing, what do you like at surfing?

So if the tsunami comes,
you can just catch a wave.

I'm good.

I'm good at surfing.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I went to, um, surfers Paradise when
I was about 18, strolled out with

my surfboard, knee, kneehigh, and
water, and suddenly this wave just

appeared and sent me rocking and
rolling and I never went back in again.

So maybe I'll try again.

Okay.

Maybe Australian surf for you.

Let's open up the mic so we can hear these
lovely voices and then open up your mics.

Everybody, you know the form.

Go low mute.

Thank you.

Lovely.